Everyday we are overcome by friends, family, books, media, etc about dating or boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. After a while it, honestly to tell the truth, gets quite annoying! So I ask, is dating biblical? Actually lets go a step further, are we putting ourselves in danger?
Lets start with - is dating biblical? No it isn't, no where in scripture does it say, "Be pure in all you do, but go ahead and say yes to the first guy who asks you out." Instead it tells us in Song of Songs 2:7, "Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires." In 1 Corinthians 5:1-2 it tells us to treat others with absolute purity.
Now lets go to - are we putting ourselves in danger? Well yeah we are, in the book called "Before You Meet Prince Charming" the author Sarah Mally tells young girls that dating and the relationships that come along with the dating are practice for divorce. Our society is basically teaching us how to divorce. This is what she means by this:
Tyler really likes Andrea, they go to the same Christian school, church, they even live two blocks away from each other. Soon Tyler starts giving Andrea some unnecessary attention, he starts winking at her, putting his arm around her... just plain flirting. Andrea just loves the attention he's giving her, so she takes it all. Soon before Tyler and Andrea know it they are inseparable, they do everything together, and they start dating. What Andrea doesn't know is Tyler already has a girlfriend. Then one day when Andrea walks into the school building she spots Tyler out of the corner of her eye with his first girlfriend. Later that day Tyler comes up to her and tells her very nicely that their relationship has to come to an end.
Do you see how dating and the relationships lead up to the young adult "divorce"? Today in the marriage life, if one is doing something the other doesn't like they usually want a divorce. In a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship if one doesn't want to continue the relationship they "divorce" at a young age.
I'm not trying to be your conscience, but I just felt like I really needed to blog about this topic. I'm sorry if I sounded like I was trying to tell any of that you need to stop dating. But I'll be praying that the Lord used this post to touch your heart in anyway.
Feel free to leave a comment I would really like to here what you have to say about this topic!