What About Crushes?

(not to reader: I do not think I have the right answer to this topic … or any others I write about. This is something I’m passionate about, and want to share my thoughts with you. I am not bashing any groups of people in any way. We all live our lives according to what we think is right)

Crushes. The seven letter word that has different meanings to different groups of people.

To some having a crush is looked down upon. Considered an absolute abomination. They tell their child that if they ever have a crush, then they need to go to God and ask for forgiveness.

To some, crushes are a natural part of life. I guess it could be as natural as the rainfall.

It’s something that parents somewhat look forward to in their child’s life … and what they also regret to come to fruition. They encourage their child to give it to God and not to dwell on their crush.

Then you’ve got the people who long for the day their child has a crush on someone. The parents (along with other family members) encourage the child to go out of his/her way to get attention from the crush. They allow the child to put pictures of their crush on their wall, mirror, etc. They get excited when the child and their crush share their entire heart with each other and become bf / gf.

Just recently I heard a conversation in the library that went somewhat like this:

(I have obviously changed the names for privacy sake)

Sally, I need help! I just found out that Jane has a crush on a boy at co-op.”

Molly, don’t encourage her! Crushes are a sin. Here’s what I suggest: take her out of the co-op and join a new one, take her out of AWANA, don’t let her go to youth group. Oh and when it comes to Friday night fellowship, she needs to stay by your side … or Joe’s side. You can not allow her to take part in that sin.”

When I heard this conversation, it made my heart sink. I knew that everyone had different views of crushes, but I didn’t understand the vast differences.

Now, I know we all live our lives to what we think to be right. But Sally’s point of view baffled me, and greatly confused me. Until the answer came to me - light bulb moment everyone.

What Sally recommended to Molly was not the answer. She was only encouraging avoiding the “problem”. Sure they can do all the suggested to Jane, but that will only cause her to resent her parents (and quite possibly Sally). It doesn’t speak to the heart of the problem (even though there isn’t one). Until they address the “problem”, they will always encounter the exact same thing with Jane.

Crushes themselves are not a sin, a problem, the cause of repentance, etc.

They are, as I stated in the beginning, as natural as the rainfall. No matter what, they will happen. It’s only when you don’t take your thoughts captive, that having a crush becomes a “problem”. If you think so and so is cute. Fine, but leave your thoughts there. Give your crush to God, pray for so and so’s future (without including you in it), and determine to treat him as the brother-in-Christ he is. Trust me, these steps truly help!

I know that some people reading this post, may be thinking that I have no room to talk about this. To some degree they are right. But I look at it this way, we all have mistakes to be made, lessons to be learned, and a voice to be heard.

Yes I made a mistake (who doesn’t?). Yes, I’ve learned my lesson (I’m sure all of you have too). And I have a voice that needs to be heard (no matter what!).

So, what about crushes?

What about them? They are bound to happen, no matter how many times you repent, how ever many co-ops you pull out of, etc. You can have a crush on someone who lives a few states away (I speak from experience).

Also, let’s talk about some other circumstances.

How do you think interest comes about. It comes about through a crush. So and so finds someone extremely attractive (to them). They finally get the opportunity to get to know their crush (whom they’ve given to God).

I don’t know about your parents, but mine still have a crush on the other. They don’t necessarily have to control their crush … because they’re married.

In my opinion, crushes in-and-of themselves aren’t sinful. It all depends on how you control them.

If you have a crush on someone, don’t put their pictures on your wall, mirror, etc. Don’t let your thoughts wander to be inappropriate. Don’t flaunt yourself. (I think you get the general idea)

Now, here’s something else that’s necessary.

After you give your crush to God and pray for him, start making Jesus your First Love. Start having a crush on the Man who thinks you’re to die for ;)

So take your crush captive, give it to God, pray for him/her (in case we have guys reading this post), and start having a crush on your Savior.

What are your thoughts about crushes?
How do you control your crush?
Comment below, I’d love to hear your thoughts :)


When Jesus Was A Green Eyed Brunette :: review & giveaway

I absolutely enjoyed reading this book!

Mr. Davis did an incredible job weaving the miraculous stories of Jesus, and making the reader aware that Jesus is fully present in their difficulties!

You will laugh and cry when you read this book.

I'm so glad I read this book, and I hope those who read it next will enjoy it as much as I did :)

.... now for the giveaway ....

 >> comment below with how Jesus has "shown" Himself to you in your trials / difficulties {2 entries}
>> follow Alisha In Progress publically – on sidebar {2 entries}
>> promote this giveaway on all your social media sites & send me the links {3 entries}
>> follow Alisha In Progress on Facebook & Instagram {4 entries}
>> join Flyby Promotions and send me your link {5 entries}
>> follow Alisha In Progress on Pinterest and let me know {6 entries}

"Disclosure (in accordance with the FTC’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the
Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising”): Many thanks to Propeller Consulting, LLC for providing this prize for the giveaway. Choice of winners and opinions are 100% my own and NOT influenced by monetary compensation. I did receive a sample of the product in exchange for this review and post. Only one entrant per mailing address, per giveaway.  If you have won a prize from our sponsor Propeller / FlyBy Promotions in the last 30 days, you are not eligible to win.  Or if you have won the same prize on another blog, you are not eligible to win it again. Winner is subject to eligibility verification.”

20 Ideas that Should Be On Your Bucket List

#1 Have a better relationship with God

#2 Use your gifts for the Lord

#3 Lead someone to Christ

#4 Read the Bible in a year

#5 Spend a day alone with God

#6 Travel

#7 Keep a journal

#8 Dance in the rain

#9 Build a blanket fort

#10 Be a better person

#11 Go on an adventure with your sibling(s)

#12 Write a letter to yourself and open it in ten years

#13 Live a life you're proud of

#14 Finish everything on your bucket list

#15 Shake a soldier's hand

#16 Give 100 in one day

#17 Leave an inspirational message for someone

#18 Meet new people

#19 Do things you've never done before

#20 Be genuinely happy

What is on your bucket list for 2017?
Comment below, I love hearing from YOU ;)


I'm Back :)

I am back in the blogging world once again.  Rhey and I spent the last two weeks in Kentucky with our second family / best friends.

Due to the lack of pictures as of today, I can only share this video Clo made.  Enjoy!

More posts, pictures, and videos will be shared next week - Lord willing!

The Blessings of Unity Review & Giveaway

Marriages today are suffering because they lack one important thing (really, two in some cases .... buuut anyways) :


Unity doesn't stop at "agreeing" with your spouse.  In order for your marriage to thrive, you need to be unified with Christ FIRST, then your spouse.  Once you're unified with Christ, unification will fall into place with your spouse.

Here is the description from Amazon:

Many movements in today's society have combined to create an atmosphere that at best teaches married couples very little about how to find happiness together, and at worst threatens to destroy the sanctity with which God intends his children to approach that union. Self-centeredness and misinformation have led many away from walking in the Spirit and loving their spouses in Christlike ways, disqualifying them from the blessings that God has in store for his unified children. The Blessings of Unity offers insight and ideas for creating godly unity in our marriages centered around two key concepts:
    1) Abiding in the Vine and walking in the Spirit, and
    2) Learning and applying the concept of unity.
Unity is achieved when a man and woman strive for agreement with God by processing His Will on every decision and in every issue. Through Biblically-centered discussions of discord, division, unity, discipleship, and prayer, and through exploring Biblical examples of unity, Richard Case offers husbands and wives practical and spiritual advice for working together in unity in the Spirit so that they can more perfectly present themselves to God for his divine approval.

I was very impressed with the message this book had, and I recommend it to everyone!

So ... here's how YOU can win this book:

 >> comment below with how long you have been married … or if you'd like to get married {2 entries}
>> follow Alisha In Progress publically – on sidebar {2 entries}
>> promote this giveaway on all your social media sites & send me the links {3 entries}
>> follow Alisha In Progress on Facebook & Instagram {4 entries}
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>> follow Alisha In Progress on Pinterest and let me know {6 entries}

The winner will be announced on Monday!


Giveaway Winner

Hello y'all!

I am here to announce that the winner for the Paul Tripp giveaway is William Canfield.

William, if you would contact me with your address, I will contact the representative and they will send your book as soon as possible.

Thank you to those who entered the giveaway!



Let Your Heart Cry Out

We constantly hear our friends and pastors talk about how America needs a revival.  Allow me to take a minute to just say:
there won't be a revival, unless there is prayer and personal revivals happening withing the hearts of God's people [us believers]!

With that said, starting November 16th, I will be hosting a prayer chain that will go on until December 16th .  We will take two hours everyday to pray (you can split the two hours in any way you want to).  Not only will we pray for those who lost loved ones during the 9/11 attack, but also for our president, our congressman, etc.

Here is a complete list of what we will pray for:

*our President - that he will make wise decisions based on the Word

*those in congress - that they will have the discernment to say :no" to bills when needed 

*family - for those who are both lost and struggling

*friends - for those who are facing difficult life situations, lost, need spiritual guidance, etc 

*revival within the heart of yourself - that you will be a new creation in Christ

*revival in America - that America will turn her eyes to the Lord

*your teachers at school (if your home-schooled still pray for your teacher) - for peace as they continue to teach their students

*children who don't have the comfort of home - for comfort in a strange environment; that they will have confidence that God can, will, and is taking care of them 

Feel free to add to this list...make it yours, also feel free to copy, paste, and print this list.  You can use the image as well (I only ask you link back to my blog).  Please pass the word along to your friends and family...the Bible says: "when two or more are gathered..."

If you are going to participate please leave a comment with your name!

Join me as I pray for our country this fall!


Every Life is Precious

An eight letter word that will change the lives of at least three people.  The father, the mother, and the innocent bundle of blessings growing within the mother.  
We are told in the Bible to "Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth." (Gen. 1:28)  With people finding out they are expecting, decide they don't want the responsibility, and abort that precious blessing, they are going against everything our Father above has commanded them!

1. "Thou shalt not kill." (Ex. 20:13)

I have heard others (particularly family members) say, 
"Abortion is not murder!"

... or ...

"What if something terrible happened to you, and you end up getting pregnant before marriage?  Don't tell me you wouldn't consider abortion then?"    

First of all, if it isn't murder, what isn't then?  Now I'm not God, but I'm sure He isn't smiling down on the person who may be having an abortion right now.  In God's eyes (and in mine), abortion is indeed murder!  I don't care how the little BLESSING looks, it is still murder.  I don't care how "humane" you kill the precious BLESSING, it is still murder!  
Secondly, no I wouldn't consider aborting the precious BLESSING that is growing within me, if something that terrible happened to me!  I trust in my Lord to turn any trial or tribulation that comes my way, into something marvelous.  Something that He will use for His glory and His will!

2. "Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.  As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.  Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.(Psalms 127:3-5)  

Many people in our society today don't see children this way anymore!  They think that the children are a burden!  Let me ask you this, 
Do you think God sees each and every person on the face of the earth as a burden?  

Absolutely not!  He sees each and everyone of us as a helpless sinner who have come short of His glory (Rom. 3:23).  He sees each and everyone of us as a precious BLESSING.  Hence why He sent His only begotten Son to die on that cross for our sins (John 3:16).

Now it's time to take how God views us and compare those views to the BLESSINGS that are being murdered today!  The Lord views us as helpless...babies (even those at a 12 week gestation period) are helpless.  The Lord views us as a precious blessing...babies (even those at a 12 week gestation period) are a precious BLESSING.

3. "Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth." (Gen. 1:28)

Yes I'm going back to the first verse I stated at the beginning of this verse!  How are we supposed to fulfill this command, if we are murdering the BLESSING growing within the women today?  Many people may say, 

"Well the Lord gave this command to only Adam and Eve!  We don't need to heed that command anymore!"  

Well if that's the case then we don't need to heed the Ten Commandments anymore either!  Being that those were written for the Hebrews that fled out of Egypt!  But that's not how the Word of God works!  We are to obey everything that God tells us in His Word...whether it's:

"Love thy neighbor as thyself" (Lev. 19:18b)

"Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost." (Matt. 28:19)

... or ... 

"Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth." (Gen. 1:28)

Why any parent would choose abortion is beyond me!  Why a doctor, friend, or family member would encourage this awful sin ... I'll let you know when I have an answer to this question?

I know this is a very controversial topic, but I needed to get my voice out there in regards to this topic.


I Tried Making It Pleasing to You Lord!

As I was looking through some of some old papers the other day, I came across a "short story" I wrote five years ago (while I was supposed to be doing school).  I thought I'd share it with you ... so enjoy :)

Hey how's it going?  My name is Stephen, I'm an 18 year old Senior in high school.  Looking back on the way I lived my life a year ago, makes me sing praises to God for saving me.  Allow me to share my story with you.

I had it all going my way...all the way to my girlfriend, down to the car I drove.  However, I lived in a broken family, my dad dumped my mom back in '07.  He dumped my mom because she was a devout Bible believing woman after God's own heart. I used to love living at my dad's house 'cause I could get away with anything!  He was always out late at night with a new girlfriend, spending time with his buddies at the local bar and so forth.
I dropped out of school in '08 and got an apartment of my own, my dad could honestly care less if I was living with him or not.  As for my mom, well like all other devout Christians, she was constantly praying for me and Dad.  Now for the exciting part...the day that changed my life forever!

One afternoon as I was hanging out at my place, I received the most bizarre phone call ever, that went something like this:


"Hello Stephen, how are you?"

"I'm sorry you don't sound like any of my friends, do I know You?"

"Not like you should."

"What's Your name, and what can I do for You?"

"I have many names, today I am Friend.  I was wondering if I could come over to your house this afternoon and talk with you?"

"Yeah sure...see You in an hour?"

"An hour sounds wonderful to Me.  Goodbye Stephen."


Told you it was bizarre! He never outwardly said that He was Jesus, but I just knew deep down that He was Jesus.  My house was not all that pleasing, and I had a bunch of cleaning to do.
First I started by deleting all of my Internet history, then by throwing away all my posters, and finally having K-Love on as the only preset that I listen to.
Finally He arrived!  When I answered the door and invited Him in, I could tell that He wasn't pleased with what He saw.  

"Stephen who's baby is that?"  He asked as He was looking at a picture.  

"Oh you mean that cute little girl, she's my...my daughter.  Her name is Jocelyn, she's about 12 days old."

"I see, if you're already committed to one young lady, then why did you have to delete your Internet history?"

"Well...I wanted to make that area pleasing to You."

"Hmm I see...I'm also noticing all the defrauding posters in your trash.  How would Janessa feel if she knew that you owned those?"

"Awful Lord, but I tried to make this area pleasing to You."

"I'm also realizing you have K-Love as your only radio preset.  Son, unless you pick up your cross and follow Me (Matthew 6:24) and repent, you cannot live with me in victory."

"Lord, I'm sorry for all the sinful things I've done in my life.  Please forgive me and dwell in my!  Thank You for saving me."

"Go and sin no more, your sins have been forgiven.  Now let's do some clean up!"

I cannot describe the joy I've felt since that day.  My girlfriend Janessa has come to the Lord and is now my beautiful wife.  Dad too has devoted himself to Christ, and is now a missionary in Germany with Mom by his side (and yes they too are now married).  About school, I still don't have a high school diploma, but I'm currently working toward my GED.  Since I have a family to take care of, I can't go to school & work, and still spend time with my girls.  God is truly amazing and will change your life if you let him!


Paul Tripp Review + Giveaway

Most of the time parenting can be quite difficult (says the girl who has made the decision to never become a parent herself).
Sometimes you wonder “why did I even become a parent?”.
Sometimes you want to just throw in the towel (or wish you could).
Sometimes you just want to pull your hair out (orrrrr, wish you could put the hair you pull out, back in your head lol).

Does parenting have to be so difficult?
Maybe, just maybe, you're going about it all wrong … and know you are, but don't know “WHAT” the right way is.

Paul Tripp's newest book Parenting 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family helps parents grasp the “right way” of parenting.

It is loaded with knowledge / wisdom / Scriptures / and much more.

Mr. Tripp is very concise in his points, and I thought he was quite easy to understand.  There were some parts that I had to reread, but that was due to my mental blondness lol – not his writing.

I was very impressed with this book, and am very thankful that I have it in my personal library :)
I recommend this book to new parents, experienced parents, parents experiencing difficulty in their parenting / children, grandparents.  Alright, alright … I recommend this to everyone ;)

There was an element in the beginning of the book, that I don't think was bad in a sense (it's very real in America as of recently, and now needs to be touched on in parenting books).  If you are one of my younger readers, you might want your parents to read chapter 3 and decide themselves if they want you subjected to the “thematic element”.

Here's Flyby's “about the book”:

“In the midst of folding laundry, coordinating carpool schedules, and breaking up fights, many parents get lost.  Feeling pressure to do everything “right” and raise up “good” children, it's easy to lose sight of our ultimate purpose as parents in the quest for practical tips and guaranteed formulas.
In this life-giving book, Paul Tripp offers parents much more than a to-do list.  Instead, he presents us with a big-picture view of God's plan for us as parents.  Outlining fourteen foundational principles centered on the gospel, he shows that we need more than the latest parenting strategy or list of techniques.  Rather, we need the rescuing grace of God – grace that has the power to shape how we view everything we do as parents.”


“Paul Tripp constantly turns us back to the life-giving power of the gospel and God's unfailing grace.”
        ~ TOBYMAC

“Simply put, I read everything that Paul Tripp writes.  I can't afford to miss one word.”
                                                                                                                ~ ANN VOSKAMP

“This is the most meaningful book I have read all year.  It is both theological and practical, a rare combination for a parenting book.  I wish I could have read it twenty years ago.”
                                                                                                            ~ FRANCIS CHAN

Whoot whoot, it's giveaway time! {insert confetti, noise makers, and balloons}

If you would like to add this wonderful book to your personal library, here's how to enter to win it:

>> comment below with how many kids you have … or how many kids you would like to have {2 entries}
>> follow Alisha In Progress publically – on sidebar {2 entries}
>> promote this giveaway on all your social media sites & send me the links {3 entries}
>> follow Alisha In Progress on Facebook & Instagram {4 entries}
>> join Flyby Promotions and send me your link {5 entries}
>> follow Alisha In Progress on Pinterest and let me know {6 entries}

Looking forward to seeing who wins this book!